5 posts tagged “memories”

So we used to do these Mom's Night Out things weekly, and coincidentally, we stopped doing them when I decided to have more of a "Single's Night In" thing last year. Tonight was better than any professional session with a trained counselor, and it occurs to me that our former arrangement was therapy in every sense of the word. Good food, good friends. The talk is similar - about relationships with our children, our husbands, our parents, siblings, teachers, coaches, and each other. We'd talk about sex and domesticity. We talked about the things we loved most about our partners, and the things that we didn't love about them. We chatted about politics, religion, our hobbies, our babies, our bodies, and that horrible dress the girl at the table- "right over there, no, don't turn AROUND!!!" was wearing. I mean, "doesn't she even own a mirror?" 

My trip to San Francisco was absolutely incredible :) I did not want to leave! Macworld was pretty sweet. We got our hands on the Macbook Air and it really is a sweet machine. Unbelievably light, fairly nice amount of screen real estate for such a tiny little thing. The keyboard is definitely something I could get used to. As always Apple seems to have hit the mark when it comes to design. The biggest thing missing would be the ability to burn cd/dvd and we have other machines in the house that could deal with that since most of my media get put onto iPhones or iPods anyway. I was really impressed with some of the third party vendors. If my screen on my iPhone didn't already have a tiny divot/scratch I'd have loved some of the new cases they came out with there. 

only a year ago?

After the last post, I did want to try to focus a bit on the positives of my own situation. While I am still hurt by my husbands' decision to divorce, I do recognize his love for the children and despite his statements to others, I have never had any intention of trying to keep him way from them in an attempt to hurt him. My children are wonderful, sensitive, caring, smart, funny, gentle, loving, and extremely social. They are equally bonded to j and I, and we have both worked as a team for the past 9 years to make sure that this is the case. We have always taken incredible pains to make well-informed decisions on everything from education to car seats to discipline, and I'm terrified of sharing those decisions with anyone else but him.

So I just dropped off a book to the house where I stayed this summer. I purposely avoided making contact with the woman I was friends with because she's made it clear that she harbors a great deal of resentment and anger toward me, and I had no desire to make her uncomfortable, but the book belonged to friend of hers who just passed away, and I felt it would be best to return it as soon as possible. As we entered the neighborhood, I was shocked when my youngest immediately started asking for her by name. He was really fond of my friend, and she was always really sweet with him, but it's been several months since we've seen her or mentioned her name at all.